By Di Om:

We are pleased to have as our guest blogger, Di Om--a yoga and meditation instructor, who will help us understand the bliss of sex and meditation. Read on and learn...

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I recently saw the title of a post on one of my favorite yoga websites asking the question, “Meditation or Sex?” Both sex and meditation bring a peaceful bliss to me. Then I thought of something...

One time during sex, I found myself worrying. Yes, worrying. Sometimes it is called ‘thinking.’ I was thinking, does he like the perfume I have on? Does he like what I’m doing? I hope he doesn’t want me to take off my bra too? What does my belly look like? Did he see my grey hair? I could go on and on. You know how rapidly this can happen in our heads. Then my mind said, “STOP!!! STOP IT!! STOP the chatter in your head. Ignore your ego! Stop your thoughts and still your mind like you do when you meditate.” I took a deep slow inhalation in, a deep slow exhalation out, and the last thought was you are here with the person you want to be with so just let go and enjoy. And I did. It was peacefully blissful.

In my yoga practice, I center myself before asana practice or meditation. I breathe slowly and deeply, which calms my mind. I stop the chatter in my head and I quiet my ego. When my mind becomes still, an incredible sense of bliss comes to me. I am present to most changes in my life that have occurred from my yoga and meditation practice. On this evening, I realized that it benefited my sex life too. Why ruin sex with thoughts, especially thoughts about body image? I have to be comfortable in my 40-something-year-old skin. I have generally learned to squash these thoughts in my life, so why let it creep into the bedroom? When I made the connection,the negative chatter stopped and I let go. So, practice this when you have sex: Don’t think too much! When you find yourself thinking, try to stop those thoughts and just let go. The more you practice, the easier it will become. And like I said, “Sex will become a peacefully blissful experience.”

I can no longer find the post on my favorite yoga website, but I think it was a link to the article “Meditation & Sex Are the Same to Your Brain”on MindBodyGreen. The article states that a study suggests our brain reacts to sex and meditation in a similar manner. Meditation stimulates the left side of your brain and sex stimulates the right side of your brain. That is why I enjoy both meditation and sex.

So ladies, just lay back, sit up, or prop yourself on all fours; stop thinking and just let go...and enjoy the ride.

For more on sex and meditation, read: The Neurobiology of Bliss—Sacred and Profane (www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=the-neurobiology-of-bliss-sacred-and-profane)