By Yvonne Wesley RN, PhD FAAN

This week we are pleased to have Dr. Wesley (www.ywesleyconsulting.com) share with us on the issue of loneliness and adult women. Take a moment to read her words of wisdom.

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Scientists have found that loneliness affects one’s health and women report more loneliness than men. Reasons for increased loneliness include, but are not limited to, the loss of a loved one or a shy personality. It has been suggested that some people have pets and/or children to avoid loneliness. However caring for the child or pet may produce more stress than alleviate feelings of being lonely. When feelings of loneliness occur, take time to examine your thoughts and approach additional responsibility with caution. Both stress and loneliness can be detrimental to one's health.

Live a balanced life. Loss is a part of life and time has a way of healing wounds, when cared for properly. For those who are just shy by nature, learn to accept yourself and never lament who you are, for there are many people who are lonely in a crowded room. Studies have even shown that married people report more loneliness than singles.

Feelings of emptiness and social isolation are not welcomed friends, but a person's desire for children and/or pets may or may not be the answer. Take time to reflect on those things that have brought you the most joy in the past and ask yourself whether the cost of relationships is more than you're willing to pay. As my grandmother would say, "Stop and count the cost before you start to build.”